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Willow (the_willow) wrote,
@ 2009-10-23 10:45:00

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i hate people, wth?

Willow Observes That Entitlement Is A Tricky/Sticky Trap
When someone calling themselves a feminist uses the terms: evil cunt, Evil Stepmother, etc... to describe how they think other individuals are seeing or treating them - for me at least, it makes it plain that they have an agenda in representation. Mainly they want the other party to be associated with negative words and phrases because they believe the other party to be negative and nothing will change their mind.

It is also difficult for me to see the difference between someone using those terms to describe themselves and someone using the terms; racist and KKK member to describe themselves when having an argument with someone of colour about racism:

I am not the racist you paint me to be, I just subscribe to this point of view and believe I was treated to 'reverse discrimination'.

It is also difficult to believe they aren't enjoying the fight when they start to attack an individual's style of writing and how they phrase their thoughts. In my case it has led me to second guess why an individual has been treated certain ways by others.

I do not know that there is any further dimension, currently private, about the situation that will change my opinion about one particular older white feminist being a jerk.

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samidw
2009-10-24 03:24 pm UTC (link)

Yeah, I often get very suspicious when people get too extreme with their rhetorical stylings - I'm wary of spin, I guess.

You do occasionally encounter people for whom it really seems to be true that it's just something about them - that there's something in the way they approach dealing with situations and with people that is, to say the least, sub-optimal.

Salt-and-burn types who've never had an interpersonal disagreement that resolved quickly and well are a prime example, I think.

I think it's worth being careful - both to consider that people might be spinning things in a way you can't trust, and to consider that that might not be the case, because it can be easy to think someone's over-reacting when they're not.

I do get wary of people whose lives are overfull of Drama though.

PS: hello! I haven't been keeping up lately, so I'm kind of dropping in to say hello today, while I'm taking a day off to recover from total exhaustion.

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