Willow Observes That Entitlement Is A Tricky/Sticky Trap
When someone calling themselves a feminist uses the terms: evil cunt, Evil Stepmother, etc... to describe how they think other individuals are seeing or treating them - for me at least, it makes it plain that they have an agenda in representation. Mainly they want the other party to be associated with negative words and phrases because they believe the other party to be negative and nothing will change their mind.

It is also difficult for me to see the difference between someone using those terms to describe themselves and someone using the terms; racist and KKK member to describe themselves when having an argument with someone of colour about racism:

I am not the racist you paint me to be, I just subscribe to this point of view and believe I was treated to 'reverse discrimination'.

It is also difficult to believe they aren't enjoying the fight when they start to attack an individual's style of writing and how they phrase their thoughts. In my case it has led me to second guess why an individual has been treated certain ways by others.

I do not know that there is any further dimension, currently private, about the situation that will change my opinion about one particular older white feminist being a jerk.